Perhaps you have stumbled upon this website, because you are looking for answers. Maybe a little red flag raised itself in your mind causing you to question the behavior of a religious leader. Maybe you even feel a little bit guilty for being here.
First of all, I want you to know that you are not alone. You are not crazy. And you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. The fact that you clicked on this link might be a sign that you want some relief from the suffocation of the secrets you have been asked to keep. Maybe your are searching for some answers about what is happening to you. Here are a few questions to consider.
Are tired of the confusion, the doubt and the chaos inside of your mind?
Do you struggle with making decisions?
Do you wonder if you even believe in God anymore?
Several years ago, I was in this place. Sometimes I still go there.
The Bible says that God is not the author of confusion. He is the author of peace. The Bible also says that God wants us to know the truth and to be set free.
What is spiritual abuse?
Religious abuse is abuse administered under the guise of religion, including harassment or humiliation, possibly resulting in psychological trauma. Religious abuse may also include misuse of religion for selfish, secular, or ideological ends such as the abuse of a clerical position.
Religious leaders, according to scripture, are placed in a position to watch over God’s people.
Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly—not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example. I Peter 5:2,3
A religious leader is in a position of power. This position was given to serve others and God. If he is using his position to abuse, he is breaking the law of God and man. If you believe you are being spiritually abused, I have linked places on this site where you can go for help if you do not know anyone in your area who is safe. I also encourage you to be careful about approaching others in the church where the religious leader is in control. Many times his/her faulty leadership patterns have resulted in a damaged community.
But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light. Ephesians 5:13
What Makes Adults Vulnerable?
5 ways religious leaders create an environment to abuse adults:
Isolate │ Create Doubt │ Praise Submission │ Foster Fear │ Secure Silence
Terminology: clergy sexual abuse of adults
(Baylor University, School of Social Work, Clergy Sexual Misconduct Study, 2008
(Baylor University, School of Social Work, Clergy Sexual Misconduct Study, 2008)
Resources: understanding & healing
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